Friday, September 15, 2017

Help! I hate my boss, what do I do? 3 easy steps to deal with workplace harassment.



As an employment lawyer, I am frequently asked this question: "Help, I hate my boss, what do I do?" Having a bad boss is not at all uncommon. Dealing with it may seem difficult at first. Use these 3 steps to help guide you back to happiness and normalcy.
  1. Reflect on why you feel this way. Something that was either done or said to you over the course of months, maybe even years, made you "hate your boss". What was that something? Were you inappropriately touched or was it primarily comment-based? If you are having problems understanding what was done or said that has made you feel this way, then you may need to get in touch with yourself. I recommend seeing a mental health care professional and reading self-help books, such as "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne, or listening to self-help podcasts, such as "Law of Attraction Secrets" by Robert Zink. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is a sign of strength. Only people strong enough to admit they need help will ever receive it. 
  2. Write down all the things that were said and done to you. Your memory will most likely not improve with time. While it is still fresh in your head, click open Microsoft Word, create a document, and start typing. For all statements, use quotes. Use dates. Be specific. Who said what specifically to who on which dates? Were you inappropriately touched? If yes, where specifically on your body were you touched by who on which dates? Did it cause pain and, if so, did you see a doctor? What about unfair actions? Did you receive an unfair performance evaluation? If so, save a copy of the evaluation and write specifically how it was unfair. Include all dates of your complaints to Human Resources or any other Company representatives. 
  3. Speak with an expert Employment Lawyer. Not all employees suffering from a hostile work environment are entitled to relief. Not all lawyers practice Employment Law and know what they are doing when it comes to wrongful treatment of employees. Be careful around attorneys who proclaim to have a General Practice or say that they handle all types of matters. Employment Law, like many other areas of practice, has become so specialized that attorneys who practice it successfully mostly do so on an exclusive basis. With that said, Employment Law is what we do. The Law Office of David H. Rosenberg, P.C. will provide you with a free and confidential case review. Please call (516) 741-0300 or visit us at www.employeelawny.com for more information. Problems at work are no problem for us.

Saturday, June 10, 2017

Have you ever had to deal with narcissists who seek to psychologically manipulate the people in their lives into believing that that they are better than everyone else? Brilliant article by James Cole Abrams about Madoff and narcissistic people who seek to control the personal relationships in their lives, through shaming and other psychologically manipulative techniques, rather than just simply engage them. The article discusses how truly insecure narcissists are and that at some point during childhood they became detached emotionally. The article further opines that narcissists do not emotionally develop past the age of detachment.

https://www.google.com/amp/observer.com/2017/06/pop-psych-bernie-madoff-wizard-of-lies-and-the-power-of-corrective-experience/amp/

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Workplace Bullying: We're Not Gonna Take It! (How should employees deal ...

5 Steps to Help You Deal With Workplace Harassment

By: David H. Rosenberg, Esq.

One of the most common questions I am asked is, "I am being harassed at work, what do I do?" Here are the five things to do and, ironically, the first thing you start with is the word stop



First, stop and take notice of yourself. You are an employee. You are the proverbial gasoline in the car. You make the company go. You are important. Do not let anyone make you feel as if you are not important because you are.  

Second, tell your harasser to stop. Please stop are two very powerful words when put together. Please stop bothering me. Please stop harassing me. Please stop treating me poorly. Make it known that the way you are being poorly treated will not be tolerated. Stand up for yourself and say stop. 

Third, I want you to stop. Do a timeout and write down everything that was said or done to you. Be specific. Who specifically said or did what specifically to who specifically on which dates specifically in front of which witnesses specifically? Write it down.   

Fourth, stop and complain to the appropriate person or department if there is one. If there is a human resources department, report it to them now and document it. Put it in writing and the 'it' is who specifically said or did what specifically to who specifically. Be specific and concise. Do not write more than is needed. 

Fifth, stop and contact The Law Office of David H. Rosenberg, P.C. You can call us, email us, either way works because we are here to help you with your problem. We love to help employees. It is what we do. Call us. It is a free conversation.  

Your problem is not just going to go away. Stop right now and visit us at www.employeelawny.com. Problems at work are no problem for us.





Friday, December 16, 2016

The Madoff Scandal: What can employees learn from it?

By: David H. Rosenberg, Esq. 


By this point, everybody knows about the Madoff scandal. What I find fascinating is the valuable lesson it taught to employees suffering from a hostile work environment. This lesson comes from observations of Ruth Madoff's behavior after learning that her husband Bernie had conducted the largest ponzi scheme in history.  

By most witness accounts, Ruth was a caring and loving woman. She donated her free time, and money, to charities. These were charitable organizations that she believed in. Ones that she treasured. Jewish charities with causes near and dear to her heart. After learning that her husband depleted the funds used to keep these charities going, she stayed with him.   

Ruth also cared about her close friends. These were friends that she celebrated the holidays with, broke bread with, danced with, celebrated with, shared vacations with, and these were people that she loved. After learning that her husband had wiped them out financially, she stayed with him. 

Ruth's sister was the person that Ruth was closest to. After the scandal, when Ruth lost everything, her sister and brother in law took her in. They gave her a home, put food on the table, and they provided her with the emotional support she so needed. Upon hearing that her husband had damn near bankrupted them, Ruth stayed with him.  

Ruth's sons were probably the greatest loves of her life. They were her flesh and blood, her babies - probably no other two people on earth that she loved more. Her sons, also victims, were so distraught about the shame their father brought to the family that one of them committed suicide. And after they gave the ultimatum of 'choose him or us' in an effort to get Ruth to stop visiting Bernie in jail, Ruth chose him.  

However, after learning that Bernie had a very brief affair more than 20 years earlier with some random woman, she stopped seeing Bernie in jail. Why? Because it was at that moment that Ruth realized she had been cheated. Ruth cared about the charities, friends, sister, brother in law, and kids but it paled in comparison to the level of care she had for herself.  In the end, it was all about Ruth.  

So, now I will ask my famous question: What does this have to do with Employment Law?

I see so many of my clients say things like, "Well Dave, I really do care about the company" or "I really care about my boss" or "I don't want to get anyone in trouble" and "that's the reason why I do not want to complain about harassment."  

My response is this: Stop caring. Your boss, the supervisors, the Human Resources Director, and your co-workers only care about one thing.  Themselves. They may care about you but it pales in comparison to the level of care that they have for themselves. 

Are you suffering at work? Is someone giving you a hard time? Do you not want to report it because you care about the other people? Stop caring. It is OK to stop caring for them and to start caring for yourself. 

If you feel you are the victim of workplace harassment, contact The Law Office of David H. Rosenberg, P.C. Problems at work are no problem for us.